It's actually not fair for me to spring that on you like that. She didn't die recently. She died almost 2 years ago (well, a year and a half - she died in June of 2009). Then I had another aunt die last June. Actually, if you are reading this, and you are my aunt, my best advice is lock yourself in your home for the month of June. Or not...since both aunts died in their home...
Anyway, to the point. My aunt died in June of 2009. My aunt also had a facebook account like every other person in this world, except my grandmothers, they don't do facebook...yet. Obviously we were facebook friends. We also have quite a few mutual friends, some friends who requested I be their friend after my aunt died.
My aunt and I have one shared friend in particular. We'll call her Judy because that's her name. Judy likes to play all those facebook games. You know, Farmville, CafeWorld, I-have-no-life-so-I-am-going-to-play-on-facebook-all-day-and-pretend-I-do-Land. And like all other annoying facebook game players, Judy sends requests to everyone.
Everyone, that is, except me because I have FINALLY figured out how to block people from asking me to nail them...or whatever it is they want me to do.
Judy sends these requests almost daily to my dead aunt. And everyday when I log in I see "Judy just sent [your aunt] a pie in CafeWorld!" or "Judy wants [your aunt] to come milk her cows in Farmville!" or whatever other thing you do in those games. Every time my aunt's name pops up it...kind of hurts. Because she's not there to accept the damn pie and she can't milk a cow, especially not on the freaking computer (hello! Does anyone else find these games as stupid as I do???).
Recently Judy posted on Aunt's wall and said: "Dearest [M's Aunt]: I know you know my intention is honorable. I keep sending you stuff cause it helps me keep your memory alive. There are people who find it to be disrespectful and cruel....but I don't mean it that way. You know that. I know that. Your husband knows that. It is all that matters."
Um, really? Sending her a freaking pie on facebook is keeping her memory alive? Try again Judy. Why don't you just admit that when the little box pops up that says "These are your friends playing [whatever game]...who do you want to send [something] to?" you pick my aunt every.single.time because her name is on the list and you pick EVERYONE on the list. We're not stupid. Keep her memory alive by putting her picture up in your house, not by flooding her facebook wall with stupid game requests she can't answer! Especially since her teenage son is also on facebook and sees these stupid game requests you send her, just like I see them.
A part of me would like to get Aunt's password from her husband and log in to her account and start responding to all those requests. Then post on Judy's wall: "Thank you so much for working so hard to keep my memory alive. Just for that I've decided to come back from the dead. And haunt you. Sweet dreams!"